If you know me then you know that I am pleasantly plump. And to tell you the truth it has taken me most of my adulthood to finally accept my curves and the few extra pounds on the scale.
I know I am beautiful both inside and out, and my husband is constantly telling me how gorgeous I am even after a hardcore work out or tearing the house apart during a cleaning spree.
The truth is, big girls and skinny girls, we’re all the same.
We all have a butt, we all have breasts, we all breathe, and eat, and work out, we all kiss and have sex, we all love – the same – THE SAME.
I’m talking sweat streaming down my face, my boobs flopping all over the place because they’re not restrained in a bra while I’m doing house chores, hair frizzy as hell – and this man thinks I’m gorgeous!
Before I met my husband, I dated skinny guys, fit guys, stocky guys, etc and it was fun, but I felt self conscious at times, because I know what his friends were thinking.
This guy wants a girl to hang out with that is tough, and can take care of herself.” The truth is a guy should look for any woman who can take care of herself and also wants to be held when scared or hurt.
If you think that all plus-sized girls are tough, well you’re probably right, and since we are, and you’re dating us, please respect that we can drop kick you at a moment’s notice if you ever disrespect us.
But what about girls who lose weight and become fit attractive women?This is loosely based on my own experiences as well as the experiences and suggestions of many girls I’ve talked to. You probably think that it’ll make fat girls more likely to contact you first, but honestly it’s hurting your cause more than anything. *(Note, saying things like ‘real women have curves’, ‘only dogs like bones’, ‘skinny girls are gross’ are horrible things to say. It may seem silly to mention, but it actually is important. There’s no special way you need to talk to them, no different procedure, here. Different fat girls have different experiences, but we’ve all experienced a lifetime of discrimination. Be aware that there’s a whole system of oppression working against her, and it’s hard sometimes. Different girls are at different stages of comfort and acceptance of their bodies (and frankly, that goes for all girls of all shapes and sizes! There’s never going to be a one-size-fits-all list, especially when talking about such a large group of people! ) But overall it just comes down to being sensitive, perceptive, and attentive. It makes you sound like all you care about is our bodies, that’s the most important part to you. You are more than welcome to have your preferences, but putting down other body types or other people’s preferences is NOT okay. ) Understand that some things are a little tougher for us. Women who used to be fat, and now have toned, fit, healthy bodies are often better partners than women who have always had the same body-type.Here’s why: Former fat girls understand that men’s attention is a reward they have to earn by developing their feminine beauty.Unfortunately, we live in a culture where obesity is the norm.