Granted, these could be your fears "Each of these fears can lead to specific and damaging behaviors that are likely to sabotage your relationships—even as you are struggling to maintain these connections," says Skeen.
"The first step toward change is bringing awareness and understanding to these fears and the behaviors that are associated with them.""If you grew up in an environment in which you didn't trust the people close to you, didn't feel safe, or were abused, you are likely to fear being hurt," says Skeen.
Your thoughts may center around ideas such as, ' If people really knew me they would reject me' or ' I am unworthy of love,' says Skeen.I always came on to you and you were too tired or you had a headache. I was miserable, but I didn’t cheat, you did.” Turning to me and raising his voice, Joe said, “I told her a million times that I’m sorry but she won’t even talk to me.” Sobs aside, Courtney addressed Joe in an accusatory voice, “I think you’re still seeing Stacy.” Taking off his glasses as though they he did not want to see too clearly, Joe seethed, “That’s ridiculous.She’s checking on me all the time and I can’t stand it.” I intervened and clarified, “You hurt her and so she’s suspicious.She adds that people with this fear often feel like the victim in their relationships, and feel they've been taken advantage of—or will be.People with this fear tend to:"When you lack emotional support, attention, affection, guidance, or understanding as you're growing up, chances are that you also anticipate emotional deprivation in your adult life," says Skeen.If you fear rejection, intimacy, abandonment or commitment, you aren’t alone.