The couple, who have three grown-up sons, first wed in November 1972. When I was 25 and Nicholas proposed, I had no doubts that he was ‘the one’. As the day approached, I became incredibly nervous as it was a very formal ‘society’ wedding held at my parents’ mansion in Wiltshire with 300 guests.
We moved to Northumberland 18 months later so Nicholas could take over the family business after his father died.
The reasons why you decided to get a divorce has an impact on the chances of reconciliation.
Nicholas was very busy with his business, which involved a lot of travel to the Far East.The questions you should ask if that happens to you include: “What do you want to do? My previous blog ("Should You Date Your Ex-Spouse," dated 1/17/11) made the audacious proposal for considering dating an ex-spouse, since the likelihood of strong positive feelings when getting married could create a positive basis for a renewed relationship, if both parties have matured and stopped blaming each other.According to counselling service Relate, one in four divorcees regrets their split. For some, the very idea will seem impossible — but for others it is a secret longing they can hardly admit even to themselves. He had such a clever way with words and he made me laugh.Victoria Craig, 66, runs a knitwear company and lives with her husband Nicholas, 67, a retired solicitor, in Corbridge, Northumberland. That night at the wedding, we talked until the early hours, and a couple of weeks later he rang to ask me out.Dating an ex-spouse should not be simply a response to loneliness, matter of convenience and/or lack of alternatives.