Mia, I can’t answer your question, because NOBODY can answer your question. Which would seem to indicate that you should break up with your boyfriend. I’ve put a lot of thought into the pros and cons of how much you should weigh the lack of physical attraction in a relationship.
Attraction is the big X Factor in any relationship. I urge you to consider this before taking any rash steps. But realize that in 10 years, you’re 37, raising little ones and your life is no longer your own. By 57, you’re probably finishing menopause and his libido is largely gone.
Physically, I find he is not a “match” for me and I am not proud of being so shallow.
I don’t know what to do because other than that he is just perfect and I like him very much, he makes me feel very good.
But when I first saw him from across the room, I had no idea at all that this would be true!
” Our attractions are forged in the deep space of our being, born of countless, often unknowable forces.
The real problem is that I don’t find him attractive.
He is not ugly but I don’t like his features and overall appearance.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... I decided to stick to men I really wasn't attracted to physically. I figured out looks have nothing to do with whether you're an a**hole or not...
This post will share some ways to cultivate sexual and romantic attraction to people who are kind, respectful—and available.
Even if you’re relentlessly attracted to bad-boys or bad-girls, or to unavailable people, you can still develop this capacity.
But I am not sure if I should be making plans with a man I don’t feel much attraction for.
I decided to tell him the truth about my feelings and he said he will take all the steps necessary to improve himself physically as he doesn’t want to lose me. Is he really the man of my life if physically I don’t like him the way he is?
Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. I would agree that sometimes you can 'grow' an attraction to someone, but if you really find them physically unappealing, then the best it's going to be is tolerance due to their other qualities.