I’ve been helping women over 40 find passionate, grownup love for 8 years.
When these fabulous women come to me for support, most admit that they are scared of dating. These strong, magnificent women have been through a horrible experience, yet they have far less hesitation about putting themselves out there.
Men can sense it when a woman is afraid to be on her own.
It changes the way a man perceives you and, more importantly, the way a man FEELS around you.
Here’s what I think: these amazing women know the reward of having a loving, devoted man in their life.
They miss having a warm, rich, intimate partnership. You see, these women are not scared of dating, because they know the reward of having a partner in life.
by Katya (Atlanta) Like all little girls, I imagined what it would be like to be in love, have a boyfriend, be in a relationship. My first boyfriend, I was in 8th grade and he was a sophomore in high school..called me beautiful. I met him at a pool party, and he told me he loved me.
Now, I'm 16 and i'm not saying i'm looking for love..the contrary, I don't think I could handle being in love right now. But he was in boarding school and in a different state..we called it quits pretty quickly. He didn't love me..loved love or the idea of being in love.
So they try all kinds of things to try and keep that woman, but actually just turns her off.
Tell me if this sounds familiar: You're hanging out, talking with some friends, when all of a sudden the conversation turns to a common topic — love and relationships. Over the years, helping women with men and relationships, I've learned that when you're single and you don't want to be, 3 common fears often come up.
Each woman at the table starts talking about the situation she's in, and all the amazing things going on with the man in her life. These fears can actually work against you and can keep you single if they go unchecked.
The DSM-5 defines social anxiety as the “persistent fear of one or more situations in which the person is exposed to possible scrutiny by others and fears that he or she may do something or act in a way that will be humiliating or embarrassing.” Those who are shy, if not socially anxious, tend to experience social situations in a more reserved, tense and uncomfortable manner, especially when meeting new people.
It may take longer to open up and share, which can affect one’s ability to form close relationships.
Dating is typically a situation where people feel scrutinized, have to meet new people, and may fear they’ll do something embarrassing.