Love is often called the supreme emotion, with romantic love considered a peak experience.But in today’s world of Internet dating and social media, the path to finding romantic love may be more difficult to navigate than ever, according to Aziz Ansari, author of the new book, humorous book exploring how technology has evolved along with the search for love and how it has shaped our romantic relationships.I know for a fact that there are some things no one ever tells you about dating in your 20s, and you deserve to know those things.Maybe some of you reading this are in high school or college or in your early 20s, and you want to know what to expect.If, for example, you believe that only “alpha” – for a suitably mistaken definition of “alpha” men get women, then that will be part of your reality.
For example, while many people enter the dating scene insecure about their attractiveness and fearful of making the first move, technology now allows them to test the waters a bit without jumping in—by Googling potential dates, checking out their profiles, or sending innocuous texts.Friends with benefits often turns into full-fledged loving relationships. Dates often include going back to someone’s fabulous house/apartment where they live alone and you can sleep there and then wake up wearing their button-down shirt looking really adorable for someone who just had a one-night stand and then you can go home and gossip about it at brunch with your friends. Except for the gossiping at brunch with your friends part. I say I had “long, hard” years of dating in my 20s, because dating in your 20s hard. I met awful dudes and do not have one positive story from the experience (some amusing stories, though).If you’re single for too long, you have to buy a cat. It’s also an exciting learning experience that will leave you with a lot of stories to tell in the future. The basic premise is that if a dude likes you, he will try for you. Is it possible for guys to regress in age as they get older? Many dudes in their 20s end up getting so freaked out by the pressure of commitment that they start to act immature and treat girls terribly. I know people who have stuck with it and ended up meeting awesome people they love now. But know that it will take you longer than a week to find your soulmate. Your friends will become boring once they’re in a serious relationship.Ansari spent over a year interviewing hundreds of people from around the world about their dating experiences and love lives.He also combed through research and interviewed experts in the field—like happiness expert Jonathan Haidt, marriage and family historian Stephanie Coontz, and psychologist Barry Schwartz, who studies the science of choice, to name a few.These days, people can increase their dating choices exponentially via online dating services like OKCupid, or Tinder, to name a few, all with relative ease.