Counseling For The Pre-Engaged For years, couples on the road to marriage have been encouraged to seek the counsel of a pastor, professor or wise couple as they prepare for marriage, but I wonder if this is really the best plan.
I believe that many couples considering marriage counseling during engagement might be too late.
Some of the issues that come up in premarital counseling would be better discussed and considered before engagement.
I wonder if many couples should seek wise counsel before they make the decision to get engaged.
Trouble discussing any of these issues might suggest to you that sitting down with a premarital counselor could be helpful.
Don’t hesitate to start off on the right foot as you build your relationship to last a lifetime. What do you expect from a marital partner regarding emotional support during exciting times, sad times, periods of illness and job loss? Will you set aside one night just to be together alone to catch up with each other and have fun? What size house is important and in what kind of neighborhood do you hope to live in both now and in the future? Are you both clear how much alone time the other needs? How long does your partner need to spend with friends separately and together? Do you agree how much time is appropriate to give to work? Do you both expect to support the family financially and will that be different when kids arrive? Are you both comfortable with the salary differential between you? How will you deal with times when one or both of you has reached a midlife career point, and you need to change some aspects of your life?
Learn More Premarital counseling, for engaged couples, is designed to help you intentionally create a concrete plan of how you want your marriage to function.
If I can be of help, please don’t hesitate to reach out, especially if you’re in the NYC, Midtown Manhattan or Westchester areas of New York.
I’m happy to offer you a free consultation to explore what we can do together. Describe what commitment means to you as you make plans to walk down the aisle? Of all of the persons in your life that you have met and could have married, why are you choosing your partner? What attracted you to your partner initially and what do you believe your partner will help you become? What do you hope to achieve in the near future and the distant future regarding your career? How do you plan to care for your community alone or separately?
It helped us understand why we 'miss' in certain areas and what things we needed from the other person to have a healthy relationship.
We loved pre-engagement counseling, especially because we got to learn so much more about each other and have a better understanding of the other person.
Ever wonder what you need to talk about before you get married?